Adoption: Pro-Life Follow Through

February 13, 2012 in Filed Under: Foster Care 18 Comments

We attended our first foster care support group this past week. The group is part of a ministry at a church in our area. It’s intended for anyone who is a foster parent, who is an adoptive parent, those who have been adopted, or anyone who has involvement in the child welfare system. It was awesome and we left feeling so encouraged in our goals.

We got to hear Tony Dungy’s wife, Lauren, speak about their experiences with the five children that they have adopted. She was a great speaker and we really enjoyed hearing about how God has provided for them as the care for the children He chose to give them. She also answered questions about how their daily life works with such a large family. Mrs. Dungy read a verse from Ephesians, which was familiar to me since I’m studying Ephesians right now…

Ephesians 1:5
God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

My big take-away from the night was the reminder of how important adoptive families are! We hear the arguments for being pro-ife all the time… but what happens to the unwanted babies after they are born? Who will take care of the child after convincing the mother not to have the abortion? Is that child any less important now than it was in the womb?

I had never really thought it all the way through from that perspective. I’m pro-life. It was painful to hear the statistics of how many (thousands) babies were aborted in the last year, just in our county. But it does make an interesting question as to who would have cared for that many babies had they been born.

Pro life

It seems to me that if you’re pro-life, maybe there is something more you could do to be pro-adoption. Not that every family is called to adopt, but there are lots of other ways to make a difference in a unwanted kid’s life.

We’re so excited to see what’s in store as we take on one of our biggest challenges yet!

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Home Study Results

February 8, 2012 in Filed Under: Foster Care 2 Comments

We had our long-awaited foster care home study yesterday! Our licensing person didn’t find any issues that should hold up our process and she said that we are now her priority case… which is both exciting and scary.

Home study

We did find out why it sometimes takes her a while to get back with us when we contact her. Apparently she is the ONLY person who does licensing in Hillsborough county. We were asking questions and she was explaining how the process will work from this point based on all the other families she has been working with. I almost couldn’t believe her when she said that she personally visits every prospective home in our county… crazy!

We went though the mound of paperwork she had given us to fill out. She was beyond impressed that we had everything done and that we hadn’t lost any of the packet. She said that is very rare. That was funny to hear, not sure why we would have scheduled the visit if we didn’t have things done. So, that was a big positive. We also had to find and make copies of several documents for her such as our driver’s licenses, insurance cards, marriage license, and tax returns. Good thing we have the new printer to make copies on!

She really liked our bedrooms. She started off very professional, but couldn’t help saying “awww… so cute” when we showed her our nursery. I had payed close attention to the rules for setting up the nursery (crib placement and pictures on the walls) so I was very happy that she didn’t see anything that needed to be changed.

We took pictures for our file of our house, bedrooms, and safety measures. We still need to take and send pictures of the community pool area showing that it has a gate around it and a life-saving device in the area. We also need to set up our car seat and send in a picture of that.

She spent quite a while talking with us about our family backgrounds. She wanted to know our parents’ personalities, what my siblings were doing, and how often we talk with each of our family members. All of her observations and our answers get put into a report that she will create. She will come back shortly for us to review and sign the report before she passes it along to her supervisor.

Our next step is a visit for the health inspector. She made the order for an inspection so we are waiting for a call from the health department to set up the inspection. They check for things such as our fridge being set to the correct temperature, our water temperature not being too hot, our medications and chemicals being sufficiently locked away, and general cleanliness. I’m pretty confident that we can pass that just fine, but I know from experience working at a grocery store that it just depends on how picky the inspector wants to be… they can almost surely find something if they feel like looking hard enough.

It was a good, but exhausting day.

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What Is Foster Care?

February 6, 2012 in Filed Under: Foster Care 12 Comments

We are so excited that we are getting closer and closer to becoming licensed for foster care. In fact, tomorrow morning we have our home study scheduled! Our licensing agent will be checking to see that we’ve made all of the necessary provisions for a child to safely stay in our home.

So, what exactly is foster care? The more we talk with people, the more we realize that people don’t really understand what we are talking about when we say that we want to do foster care. That’s fine… in a perfect world there would never be a need for foster care. Here is the (paraphrased) definition we were given in our MAPP class:

Foster care is a protective service for children who have been abused, neglected, mistreated, or whose parents are otherwise unable to care for them due to illness or death. The child is given a family life experience in an agency-approved, certified, and licensed home for a temporary period of time. The primary goal of foster care is to provide safety and permanency. Foster parents are often in a position to help children and their families reunify if safety and well-being can be achieved or to assist in making adoption plans or other permanent plans for the children if reunification is not an option.

For example, (maybe not a good one-but it’s all can think of) in the movies when the police arrest a parent for some reason and then take the children back to the police station with them. Unless a relative of the child can be reached, plans are made to place the children in a foster home for the time being.

We really don’t mind answering questions, but we get really confused when people ask if we have a child picked out already. The answer is no. If someone makes a report that a child is being abused or neglected, the child gets removed from that situation as soon as possible. There is no child waiting in an unfit home for the past year while we get ready to be licensed.

Foster child

Instead, once we get licensed we are essentially “on-call” for when a situation arises. From what we’ve been told that will probably happen almost immediately, maybe even same-day. When we receive a call we can choose based on whatever factors we feel are important (such as age or type of abuse) if we feel like we are capable of caring for that specific child.

Hopefully this makes our mission a little clearer. :)

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